Category Archives: Personal

Sunday Stealing: January 8, 2023

1, If you could change the ending to one movie you have seen, which one would it be, and how would you reshoot it?

Old Yeller. I think we all know why, and what the new ending would be.

2. If you were to select a food that best describes your character, what food would it be?

Anything vegan: It fits my love of animals, environmentalism, and appreciation for health-consciousness.

3. If you could cure any disease, which would it be?


4. If you had to describe the single worst thing a friend could do to you, what would it be?

Murder me.

5. If you could be a contestant on any game show, which would you like to be on?

Wheel of Fortune. I’m good with word stuff.

6. If you could choose the music at your own funeral, what would it be, and who would play it?

It would never happen because the original four will never play together again. I guess I’ll have to live forever.

7. If you had to spend all of your vacations for the rest of your life in the same place, where would you go?

Europe. Hey, you didn’t say it had to be only one country or city.

8. If you could ask God a single question, what would  it be?

I don’t believe in any deities.

9. If you could eat one food in any quantity for  the rest of your life with no ill effects whatsoever what food would you choose?

Vegan ice cream.

10. If you could have a year any place in the world, all expenses paid, where would you go?

Finland. I’ve been fascinated by Finnish culture ever since becoming a Poets of the Fall fan. And think of all the gigs!

11. If you could forever eliminate one specific type of prejudice from the earth, which would it be?

You can’t eliminate just one. Racism, sexism, and homophobia grow up in the same toxic house. But if forced, I would say racism.

12. If you could own one painting from any collection in the world but were not allowed to sell it, which work of art would you select?

Probably something from Monet.

13. If you could ask a single question of a dead relative, what would it be and of whom would you ask it?

My mother’s father’s mother, to confirm her maiden name.

14. If you had to choose the best television show ever made, which one would you pick?

Probably the Carol Burnett Show. It was pure hilarity. Half the fun was watching the performers try not to crack up whenever Tim Conway did something.

15. If you could write letters to only one person for the rest of your life, who would receive them?

Letters? Do people still do that? I wouldn’t.

2022 Into 2023

Oops, fell off the Holidailies. Wasn’t feeling great, and then just lost the mojo. Sorry! But here’s a little survey going around another site, edited for public consumption.

Q. What did you do in 2022 that you’d never done before?

Had a doctor write me a note for medical leave which was as much for my mental health as my physical health.

Q. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions/intentions, and will you make/set more for next year?

I started to keep 2022’s, which was to get out and be more social, but that went haywire in April when my health problems started.

Yes, I have resolutions and intentions for 2023.

Q. Did anyone close to you give birth?


Q. Did anyone close to you die?


Q. What countries did you visit?


Q. What would you like to have in 2023 that you lacked in 2022?

Consistent good health.

Q. What date from 2022 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

None, really.

Q. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Not telling a few people what I REALLY think.

Q. What was your biggest failure?

Losing patience with various and sundry annoyances.

Q. Did you suffer illness or injury?

YES. We don’t need to relive it in the telling, thanks.

Q. What was the best thing you bought?

Tanmit Glitter Gel pens.

Q. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

Volodymyr Zelensky. That guy is tenacious and fearless.

Q. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Privileged White men on social media letting their misogyny and racism out into the universe. I am so utterly sick and tired of the Musk Bronies, the Trumpers, the White supremacists, the aging Boomers and fellow aging Gen-Xers being asshats to young people, the young incels with their Red Pill bullshit, and all the others who throw tantrums because they have to share the world instead of own it.

Q. Where did most of your money go?

Tablet games. Yeah, that has to stop, pronto.

Q. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Not a whole lot.

Q. What song will always remind you of 2022?

I don’t want to be reminded of 2022.

Q. Compared to this time last year, are you:

-Happier or sadder?

Sadder, and angrier.

-Thinner or fatter?

A few pounds heavier.

-Richer or poorer?

About the same.

-What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleeping, exercising, looking outside myself and my own problems to see if I could help someone else with theirs.

-What do you wish you’d done less of?

Ranting and ruminating.

Q. How did you spend Christmas?

On the couch watching TV. It’s what I usually do. Christmas is not my big day over the holiday season. New Year’s Eve is.

Q. Did you fall in love in 2022?

Did I have a choice?

Q. How many one-night stands?

None. The very thought of one has me thinking “ewwww.”

Q. What was your favourite TV programme?

House of the Dragon, followed by AHS: NYC.

Q. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate time last year?

Elon Musk. What a tool. You name it, he’s a tool of it: consumerism, institutionalized racism, materialism, patriarchy.

Q. What was the best book you read?

Moloka’i, by Alan Brennert.

Q. What was your greatest musical discovery?

This song by Cabela and Schmitt.

I can hear the influence of America; Crosby, Stills, and Nash; and Simon and Garfunkel in their music.

Q. What did you want and get?

Time to read, color, and do other quiet activities.

Q. What did you want and not get?

Consistent good health.

Q. What was your favourite film of this year?

I don’t know what films came out in 2022, so no idea.

Q. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I hit 56. I did nothing on the actual day but I went out to lunch with a buddy in November, after I got over the flu.

Q. What one thing would have made your year more satisfying?

Consistent good health. Do you see a pattern here?

Q. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2022?


Q. What kept you sane?

Who said anything about keeping sane? I damn near asked to be put on disability for at least a month so I could focus on my mental wellness.

Q. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Aside from Matt Smith as Daemon Targaryen? CSI-era George Eads. I don’t normally go for dark eyes but that right there is a handsome man.

I loved the way he was always changing his hair and style on CSI, too. Buzzcut, cop hair, preppy hair, sometimes facial hair, sometimes clean-shaven. He was never boring. He’s still quite good-looking, actually.

Q. What political issue stirred you the most?

The Dobbs decision. PURE EVIL.

Q. Who did you miss?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Still.

Q. Who was the best new person you met?

I didn’t really meet any new people in 2022.

Q. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2022.

Slow down, or your body will make you slow down.

Q. What are your 3-5 major resolutions/intentions for 2023?

–Drop 16 pounds and keep them off.
–Write in my paper journal.
–Daily gratitude.
–Curtail spending on games and put that money toward health and wellness.
–Not bother reaching out to people I never hear from unless I reach out to them, first.

Sunday Stealing, December 18, 2022

My plans for December: 

Already had the office party and a couple of other events. For the rest of December, Season’s Greenings at the U.S. Botanic Garden, New Year’s Eve Game Night party at a friend’s, and not sure what else yet.

How energized I feel at this point in the year: 

VERY. I’m a cold-weather person. Went for a city walk with friends yesterday and the fresh cold air felt glorious.

The best things about the holiday season: 

Seeing friends, viewing all the displays, and all the celebrations.

Something that changed my perspective on life: 

My job. I write about mental health and substance use disorders, and I read and write about trauma a lot. The things people do to one another make it hard to keep the kibosh on my misanthropy.

But also, people, PLEASE, the stigma has got to stop. It is just one more trauma to the people who have mental illness and substance use disorders. No one ASKS to have a mental illness. No one ASKS to have a substance use disorder. If you have never had either of these, please consider yourself fortunate that you do not have the genetic make-up that challenges resiliency. No, I do not want to hear how you experienced trauma in your life and you’re fine. That is not the point. (And not for nothing, but people who say that are usually not fine, as that very statement speaks to a callousness that often springs from past trauma.) Everyone walks a different path. Everyone has a different experience.  Everyone has a different childhood. Everyone has a different level of resiliency. Everyone has a different family history and genetic make-up. The brain is living tissue and it is subject to injury just like anything else in your body.

What I seem to get the most comments about: 

The changes I’ve made to my style:

I’m slowly transitioning to my natural silver hair. Right now my hairdresser does very fine highlights that make me look blonde overall, but slowly but surely, I will be all silver. It will take a few years, as the hair in the back is a dark gray, but I’ll get to all silver eventually. Also, I don’t wear face make-up anymore. Laser treatments are a wonderful addition to my life.

What gets in the way of my success: 

Procrastination and impatience with people who are slow to catch on to the fact that not everyone has to do something the way they would do it.

News sources I trust the most:

Reuters, AP

Fictional characters that would easily fit into my life:

Skeeter Phelan, Andi Sachs, Prince Akeem (Google them if unfamiliar. It is a peeve of mine when people ask me things they can easily type into a search engine and learn for themselves. It will stick better that way, anyway.)

My relationship with spirituality: 

Atheist here, so not big on that.

How I feel when I’m being retrospective: 

Relieved. What’s done is done and what’s in the past is in the past. I often think, “So glad I don’t have to deal with that/him/her anymore.”

My thoughts on AI technology:

It makes hilarious artwork.

The odd/weird things I do when nobody else is around: 

Oh, I don’t hide my weirdness. I let my oddness out into the world. Deal with it.

What I do when I can’t sleep: 

Think about how I can’t sleep. Resent that people with night chronotypes are so judged and maligned.

The winter/holiday season tasks I enjoy: 

I don’t do tasks anymore. I don’t bother with decorating, holiday baking, etc. I used to enjoy making ribbons for gift-wrapping but I don’t really do gift exchanges anymore, either. Just a few friends, and a lot of that is having stuff delivered to them. Gotta say, I love not having a financial hangover in January.