Category Archives: Life

Sunday Stealing: January 8, 2023

1, If you could change the ending to one movie you have seen, which one would it be, and how would you reshoot it?

Old Yeller. I think we all know why, and what the new ending would be.

2. If you were to select a food that best describes your character, what food would it be?

Anything vegan: It fits my love of animals, environmentalism, and appreciation for health-consciousness.

3. If you could cure any disease, which would it be?


4. If you had to describe the single worst thing a friend could do to you, what would it be?

Murder me.

5. If you could be a contestant on any game show, which would you like to be on?

Wheel of Fortune. I’m good with word stuff.

6. If you could choose the music at your own funeral, what would it be, and who would play it?

It would never happen because the original four will never play together again. I guess I’ll have to live forever.

7. If you had to spend all of your vacations for the rest of your life in the same place, where would you go?

Europe. Hey, you didn’t say it had to be only one country or city.

8. If you could ask God a single question, what would  it be?

I don’t believe in any deities.

9. If you could eat one food in any quantity for  the rest of your life with no ill effects whatsoever what food would you choose?

Vegan ice cream.

10. If you could have a year any place in the world, all expenses paid, where would you go?

Finland. I’ve been fascinated by Finnish culture ever since becoming a Poets of the Fall fan. And think of all the gigs!

11. If you could forever eliminate one specific type of prejudice from the earth, which would it be?

You can’t eliminate just one. Racism, sexism, and homophobia grow up in the same toxic house. But if forced, I would say racism.

12. If you could own one painting from any collection in the world but were not allowed to sell it, which work of art would you select?

Probably something from Monet.

13. If you could ask a single question of a dead relative, what would it be and of whom would you ask it?

My mother’s father’s mother, to confirm her maiden name.

14. If you had to choose the best television show ever made, which one would you pick?

Probably the Carol Burnett Show. It was pure hilarity. Half the fun was watching the performers try not to crack up whenever Tim Conway did something.

15. If you could write letters to only one person for the rest of your life, who would receive them?

Letters? Do people still do that? I wouldn’t.

2022 Into 2023

Oops, fell off the Holidailies. Wasn’t feeling great, and then just lost the mojo. Sorry! But here’s a little survey going around another site, edited for public consumption.

Q. What did you do in 2022 that you’d never done before?

Had a doctor write me a note for medical leave which was as much for my mental health as my physical health.

Q. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions/intentions, and will you make/set more for next year?

I started to keep 2022’s, which was to get out and be more social, but that went haywire in April when my health problems started.

Yes, I have resolutions and intentions for 2023.

Q. Did anyone close to you give birth?


Q. Did anyone close to you die?


Q. What countries did you visit?


Q. What would you like to have in 2023 that you lacked in 2022?

Consistent good health.

Q. What date from 2022 will remain etched upon your memory, and why?

None, really.

Q. What was your biggest achievement of the year?

Not telling a few people what I REALLY think.

Q. What was your biggest failure?

Losing patience with various and sundry annoyances.

Q. Did you suffer illness or injury?

YES. We don’t need to relive it in the telling, thanks.

Q. What was the best thing you bought?

Tanmit Glitter Gel pens.

Q. Whose behaviour merited celebration?

Volodymyr Zelensky. That guy is tenacious and fearless.

Q. Whose behaviour made you appalled and depressed?

Privileged White men on social media letting their misogyny and racism out into the universe. I am so utterly sick and tired of the Musk Bronies, the Trumpers, the White supremacists, the aging Boomers and fellow aging Gen-Xers being asshats to young people, the young incels with their Red Pill bullshit, and all the others who throw tantrums because they have to share the world instead of own it.

Q. Where did most of your money go?

Tablet games. Yeah, that has to stop, pronto.

Q. What did you get really, really, really excited about?

Not a whole lot.

Q. What song will always remind you of 2022?

I don’t want to be reminded of 2022.

Q. Compared to this time last year, are you:

-Happier or sadder?

Sadder, and angrier.

-Thinner or fatter?

A few pounds heavier.

-Richer or poorer?

About the same.

-What do you wish you’d done more of?

Sleeping, exercising, looking outside myself and my own problems to see if I could help someone else with theirs.

-What do you wish you’d done less of?

Ranting and ruminating.

Q. How did you spend Christmas?

On the couch watching TV. It’s what I usually do. Christmas is not my big day over the holiday season. New Year’s Eve is.

Q. Did you fall in love in 2022?

Did I have a choice?

Q. How many one-night stands?

None. The very thought of one has me thinking “ewwww.”

Q. What was your favourite TV programme?

House of the Dragon, followed by AHS: NYC.

Q. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate time last year?

Elon Musk. What a tool. You name it, he’s a tool of it: consumerism, institutionalized racism, materialism, patriarchy.

Q. What was the best book you read?

Moloka’i, by Alan Brennert.

Q. What was your greatest musical discovery?

This song by Cabela and Schmitt.

I can hear the influence of America; Crosby, Stills, and Nash; and Simon and Garfunkel in their music.

Q. What did you want and get?

Time to read, color, and do other quiet activities.

Q. What did you want and not get?

Consistent good health.

Q. What was your favourite film of this year?

I don’t know what films came out in 2022, so no idea.

Q. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you?

I hit 56. I did nothing on the actual day but I went out to lunch with a buddy in November, after I got over the flu.

Q. What one thing would have made your year more satisfying?

Consistent good health. Do you see a pattern here?

Q. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2022?


Q. What kept you sane?

Who said anything about keeping sane? I damn near asked to be put on disability for at least a month so I could focus on my mental wellness.

Q. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most?

Aside from Matt Smith as Daemon Targaryen? CSI-era George Eads. I don’t normally go for dark eyes but that right there is a handsome man.

I loved the way he was always changing his hair and style on CSI, too. Buzzcut, cop hair, preppy hair, sometimes facial hair, sometimes clean-shaven. He was never boring. He’s still quite good-looking, actually.

Q. What political issue stirred you the most?

The Dobbs decision. PURE EVIL.

Q. Who did you miss?

Ruth Bader Ginsburg. Still.

Q. Who was the best new person you met?

I didn’t really meet any new people in 2022.

Q. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2022.

Slow down, or your body will make you slow down.

Q. What are your 3-5 major resolutions/intentions for 2023?

–Drop 16 pounds and keep them off.
–Write in my paper journal.
–Daily gratitude.
–Curtail spending on games and put that money toward health and wellness.
–Not bother reaching out to people I never hear from unless I reach out to them, first.

Sunday Stealing: December 4, 2022

Time for a little Sunday Stealing.

1. What do men really want in a woman?
Depends on the man, and you’d have to ask him.

2. Should marijuana be legalized?
For medical purposes only. I used to be pro-legalization all the way, but not anymore. I’ve been writing about substance use disorders for a living for four years now, and after reading dozens of studies about the harms of cannabis, I no longer believe it should be a legal free-for-all for recreational use. Don’t get me wrong: I don’t believe we should throw people in jail for smoking a joint, so I guess you could say I believe in decriminalization. But I don’t believe it should be something people can just buy because they feel like it, like they buy a pack of cigarettes or a six-pack.

I also think cannabis-derived products should be tightly regulated as a drug and only available for evidence-based treatments, which right now would be only for epilepsy, and for treating nausea caused by chemotherapy. I won’t start a crap-storm in this blog, but a study just came out about how the perceived reduction in pain in people who use cannabis for pain management is largely placebo effect caused in part by skewed coverage in the media. There is also evidence that cannabis makes anxiety worse, not better, in that if you stop using it, your anxiety comes roaring back worse than before. It has to do with the cannabinoid receptors on your cells.

And honestly? Smoking the stuff pollutes the air around you and it STINKS. Various parts of Washington, D.C. smell like the back-end of a skunk, notably the Wharf, various parks, and half of the Metro. PEOPLE, if you smoke weed, please know that you smell, and quite possibly reek. There is no delicate way of putting this and there is no escaping it. It gets in your clothes and your hair and people can smell you 10, 15 feet away. You may be nose-blind to it the way people are often nose-blind to their own body odor or the perfume or aftershave they use, but lemme tellya, the rest of the world isn’t. If people around you start whipping out their masks, it means you stink. There, I said it, I own it, moving on…

3. Why did the cow jump over the moon?
To get to the other side.

4. What do women really want in a man?
It depends on the woman, and you’d have to ask her.

5. When you are having a really good day, what usually makes it good?
Socializing with people who have the same sense of humor and then coming home to this handsome guy:

6. What can make your good day turn into a bad day?
Metro delays and other rat-race problems.

7. If you could “start from scratch” and turn back the clock for a re-do, what would you re-do?
From scratch? I probably would have become a physician.

8. Do you make a list when you go grocery shopping?

9. Do you buy more groceries when you’re hungry?
Yes, so I don’t go grocery-shopping when I’m hungry.

10. Coupons. Use ’em?

11. Have you ever complained to the manager of your grocery store?
No, but I have brought to customer service expired items that I find on the shelves.

12. Do you like to buy groceries at huge chain stores like WalMart? Or do you shop exclusively at food stores?
Food stores, namely Giant and Harris Teeter, sometimes Safeway, sometimes Whole Foods, but I haven’t really shopped at Whole Foods since I moved to where I live now.

13. What do you typically have for lunch?
Salad, a Tofurky sandwich with vegan cheese and vegan mayo, California roll, or falafel.

14. If you work outside your home, do you pack your lunch?
Not anymore. I have to lug my laptop to the office on days I go in, and it’s all too much to carry. But I only go in twice a week.

15. Tell us about your last lunch date and what made it special.
I had lunch with a buddy a few weeks ago. We had a reservation for a place neither of us had been to before, which was on the second and third floors of a commons. We were seated outside and didn’t realize we were in the wrong place until the server came over and introduced herself. It all worked out though: We had a leisurely ladies’ lunch with good conversation and that place had the BEST vegan double-cheeseburger I have ever had.

Well, that was fun, especially because there are so many questions about grocery-shopping after a question about cannabis. Did someone have the munchies?